The Virtue of being good to your girls (daughters)

Assalamu Alaikum,

The Importance of being good to your girls (daughters)

Volume 8, Book 73, Number 24:

Narrated ‘Aisha:

(the wife of the Prophet) A lady along with her two daughters came to me asking me (for some alms), but she found nothing with me except one date which I gave to her and she divided it between her two daughters, and then she got up and went away. Then the Prophet came in and I informed him about this story. He said, “Whoever is in charge of (put to test by) these daughters and treats them generously, then they will act as a shield for him from the (Hell) Fire.”

Upon reading this hadith we immediately notice the character of Aisha and the woman who came to her house.

1) There was NO food in the house of the Prophet sallalahu alahi wa salam EXCEPT for a date. SubhanAllah… think about that. If you go to your pantry at home…. you have enough food for months…STILL Aisha gave her date to this woman. Could we ever do that?

2) Look at the mother….she did NOT eat the date. Rather, she broke into two halves and gave it to her daughters…subhanAllah.. think of the ajr she will get…

Then The Prophet Sallahu allahi wa salam said

“Whoever is in charge of (put to test by) these daughters and treats them generously, then they will act as a shield for him from the (Hell) Fire.”

Why is the Prophet saying “Put to test by?”

There are several reasons:

1) In the Jahaliyah days before Islam came and enlightened the populace, the Arabs used to hate daughters. They were viewed as ways in which to lose honor (by their daughters committing actions without modesty) people who would leave the family, and also physically inferior (not able to help defend, fight, etc). So to raise a girl for them was difficult and something they did not want to do

2) Girls need to be nurtured, taken care of, and looked after. You have to listen to and understand their problems and emotions otherwise they will not let you into their heart and mind. Girls have deeper and more sensitive emotions and moods than boys do, and thus you need to treat them with kindness, and be sensitive and caring with them.

3) Especially in the west, it’s HARD being a good muslimah! Wearing hijab in a country where the population both doesn’t wear it and understand it, having to deal with all the problems a teenage girl goes through (problems with friends, school life, etc), Wallahi it is difficult.

So for these reasons, The Prophet Sallalahu allahi wa salam said “Put to test by”

AND what is the REWARD?

“then they will act as a shield for him from the (Hell) Fire.”

SubhanAllah.. this doesn’t apply to guys, by raising us it isn’t a special protection against the Hellfire. This only applies to girls… through successfully loving your daughter and turning her into a good muslimah your daughter will act as a SHIELD against the HELLFIRE for you.

Also…. the daughters today will turn into the mothers of our Ummah in 20 years. If you raise your daughter correctly, she as a mother will raise HER daughter and her community correctly. Think of the Ajr.

This doesn’t mean you should make dua for many girls and no guys….

You should just be pleased and content with what Allah gave to you:

if Allah gave you 7 daughters this is a blessing from Allah, even though the test will be harder… the reward is so great.

If Allah gave you both sons and daughters we should again be thankful to Allah for providing with us with children to care,love and nurture.

The point of this hadith however, is to show the incredible importance of being good to your daughters and raising and treating them correctly.